In his diary, Van Dyke also reflects on the emotional weight of watching the world transform—sometimes painfully. “Recent and unfolding current events could turn anyone sour and dark, young or old,” he wrote, pointing specifically to the two massive wildfires that tore through Southern California last year. One was the worst in the region’s history.
The fires came frighteningly close to his home, stirring a sense of vulnerability that even a Hollywood legend cannot escape. Paired with political divisions and global unrest, the experience left him feeling emotionally shaken.
The Loneliness of Outliving Almost Everyone You Love
For all the public celebration around turning 100, Van Dyke acknowledges the darker side of longevity: the quiet, aching loneliness of survival. He writes openly about outliving nearly every friend and loved one from his early life and career.
His first wife, Margie Willett — with whom he shared four children — passed away in 2008. His partner of more than 30 years, Michelle Triola, died in 2009. Many of his closest friends and co-stars left this world long before him.
“Every single one of my dearest lifelong friends is gone,” he shared. “Which feels just as lonely as it sounds.”
It is a profound statement — one that few people ever express publicly, especially those in the entertainment world, where image is often polished and softened. And yet, despite this loneliness, Van Dyke emphasizes repeatedly that sadness is not the “essence” of who he is.
He has lost much. But he refuses to let grief define the story of his life.
