It’s all or nothing: either you babysit every one, or you don’t babysit at all.

One evening, Ellie gave me a crayon drawing of our home, showing all the children, Clara, and me. Above my figure, in simple letters, she wrote: “Nana.” No qualifiers, no distance—just love. It was the moment I truly understood that family isn’t only about blood. It’s about who shows up, who listens, who stays through everything.

Jamal began calling me simply to chat, sharing his school day or a funny story. “I know you weren’t there when I was little,” he said one night, “but I’m glad you’re here now.”

This isn’t the family I expected, nor the one I had planned. But it’s richer, deeper, and more beautiful than any dream I could have imagined. I once drew clear lines between “mine” and “theirs,” but now, looking at Mason, Ellie, Jamal, and Ava, I can no longer see that line. They are all mine, and I am theirs.Continue reading…

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