“It’s not work, because people come up, and say they feel so sorry. I understand the sympathy, because I know a lot of people are going through it, but it’s okay.
Jay’s candid reflections reveal an essential truth about caregiving: that it is not simply a duty or a chore, but an opportunity to continue nurturing love, connection, and shared memories.
While he admits that the situation is “tricky” at times, he emphasizes that he feels fortunate to be able to provide care for Mavis, not only in terms of her physical needs but also emotionally and socially.
“I’m very lucky. I enjoy her company. As soon as this ride’s over, I’m going home and I’ll make her lunch,” he said. Simple acts such as preparing a meal, sharing a laugh, or simply being present become profound expressions of love in the context of dementia.
Beyond the practical aspects of caregiving, Jay has reflected on the emotional resilience required to navigate life with a spouse who has a degenerative illness.
Dementia, by its nature, changes relationships, blurring memories and altering interactions. Yet Jay focuses on the enduring qualities of their marriage—shared humor, affection, and mutual respect—that remain intact despite the disease.
By prioritizing moments of joy and companionship, he creates a life for Mavis that is both comforting and fulfilling, even amid the challenges of advanced dementia.
The Lenos’ story also serves as a reminder of the importance of community and support. Friends, family, and fans have rallied around the couple, offering messages of encouragement, understanding, and empathy.
For Jay, this support is meaningful but not essential—he emphasizes that caregiving, while sometimes isolating, is a deeply personal commitment.
Looking back, Jay and Mavis have shared countless milestones that have fortified their relationship.
From their first meeting at the Comedy Store to decades of marriage, travel, and professional success, they have built a life grounded in humor, respect, and partnership.Continue reading…
